Actually, I don’t have a crystal ball and can’t predict the future, nor can you, nor the government decision-makers. What we can do is take what we know now and from the past, and predict. Whether that prediction comes to pass or not is actually irrelevant right now. Why? Because what is more important is how we (& our leaders) are feeling when we make the prediction.
If you are feeling optimistic you will choose different current and past events on which to base your prediction of the future, than if you are feeling pessimistic and sure terrible events from the past will repeat. That same optimism or pessimism will also determine what actions you do or don’t take right now, and it is those actions & messages that start creating your future, our future.
If you are feeling afraid and anxious, or angry at the ‘new normal’ physical distancing and social isolation restrictions now, fighting to get back to your old life, or feeling lost and helpless, then how you are living your life right now is reflecting that and how your future could unfold. This isn’t a rehearsal, nor a sprint, you haven’t put your life on hold, you are actually living your life right now. These hours, days, months count. So, are you living and growing or just marking time? Do you need expert help to clear the fog?
“May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.” ― Nelson Mandela
Think of this as your chrysalis time. Yes, there are still grubs around out there, but the majority of us have gone into our own chrysalis. What you chose to do, how you chose to live your life in the chrysalis now will determine whether you emerge with wings, or stay a mess inside. That is why your mindset, how you are thinking and feeling, is crucial to move through this life stage with relative ease and minimal pain.
And yes, you might feel like you have brain fog or spaghetti brains or a head full of white noise some days. Just know you can easily access help to clear that so you can calmly focus on what is, in your chrysalis, and who you want to emerge as. Notice I didn’t say “how you want your world to look” because we don’t have as much control over that, but we can learn to control who we become. You have so many choices, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.
So, who do you want to be when you grow up?
Instead of going into potential over-whelm or despair about your choices, perhaps start with the concept that your purpose in life is simply to be the best version of you possible.
The best version of you is happy, true? So, what would make you happy? For example, for me, to be genuinely happy I need to be healthy, loved, secure, fulfilled and free. There are many details, but all can come back to these five, for me. You might have different choices. There are no wrong answers. Your life, your choice.
Now, living life in the chrysalis becomes easier. I just focus on being and doing whatever creates the best happy version of me, now and into the future: healthy, loved, secure, fulfilled and free. Remembering, especially if you are an extrovert banging at the door to be let out, freedom starts in your mind. Nelson Mandela taught me that.
“As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison.” ― Nelson Mandela
Yes, you might need to start viewing things from a different perspective, get creative finding new ways to support yourself, perhaps learn new skills, connect online with different people, let go of your old identity. You can choose to view this as an inconvenience, all too hard or as an adventure.
The beauty of viewing it as an adventure is that you stop expecting yourself to know every step of the way. You expect the unexpected, you know there’ll be ups and downs and that you’ll feel a great sense of achievement as you stretch and grow with each challenge. You learn the benefits of asking for and accepting help from strangers, and of acknowledging and sharing your own unique gifts and talents in return.
So, are you ready to turn this all into an adventure?
Not sure? Consider, what sort of role model are you being for your family, team and colleagues? They are watching.
Show your strength by being vulnerable enough to ask for help.
Known as the “Head Trash Removalist”, Sue Lester is Australia’s leading expert in optimizing unconscious blueprint. She creates lasting behavioural change through mindset shifts with individuals, teams and audiences worldwide. Author of “The Face Within: How To Change Your Unconscious Blueprint”. www.SueLester.com